Adding ‘Ferociousness’ to ‘Responsibility’ will defeat your depression.

Paragliding in Bir-Billing.

I woke up this morning a little later than I would have liked to. Felt very tired thinking about the daily routine work that awaited me. But on introspecting a bit deeper I also realised that creating a clean living space was MY LIFE! To see my two dogs well looked after, fed, brushed, towel bathed was MY LIFE! And giving in to my tiredness would actually mean saying NO to LIFE. And saying NO to life means would amount to ‘Atmahana’ – literally killing your ‘Atman’, (your being)

You might have probably heard many times, “Take responsibility for yourself. Take responsibity for your dreams. For your life”. That is correct. Nothing wrong with it. But there is another quality that you can bring into your responsibility. And that is ferociousness. When you bring in ferociousness to your responsibility and say YES to whatever YOU consider as your LIFE (without cherishing enmity with whoever you are upset with) you will go beyond your tiredness and your depression. Cherishing enmity with your enemy, by the way is the most stupid thing you can do which will harm you and you will suffer and feel crappy if you cultivate it as a habit! Yesterday I was not too happy with someone very close to me and we had a very bitter argument. But had I chersihed ‘enemity’ with them I would have really felt lousy and doing any work would have felt very tiring and heavy and even if I did it I would have felt like a victim or taken advantage of. Instead I refused to cherish enemity with them and simultaneously say YES to what I considered as MY LIFE (creating and enjoying a clean space) with a sense of ‘ferocious responsibility’. As a result by sunset I managed to do all of my work and my house was sparkling clean and my dogs well cared for and happy. I could even manage to find the time and energy to light the evening lamps during ‘Sandhya’ (Hindu ritual performed during twilight hours) and express my gratitude to the divine for being able to actually say YES to LIFE. And even write this blog post as my unique way of enriching the world by sharing the best strategies, that I know of, for living life effectively. How do I feel? I feel a sense of accomplishment, pride and satisfaction. I did not feel like a victim at all.

So if you are going through a rough patch it would be useful to ask yourself, “Am I saying NO to something which I myself consider as MY LIFE?” and carefully anwser it. And if you are, you are literally taking in slow poison. In Sanskrit it is known as “Atmahana”. ‘Dharma’ means saying YES to LIFE. Because when you empower it, it empowers you back. That’s Dharma. Saying NO to LIFE is ‘Atmahana’. Giving into your tiredness even before you start is saying NO to LIFE and a form of slow poison. So just muster up a little courage and say YES to whatever it is that you YOURSELF consider to be YOUR LIFE. And do it without cherishing enmity with ANYONE (including your enemy) and with a sense of ‘ferocious responsibility’. You might be pleasantly surprised by how wonderful you feel by the time the sun sets!


Don’t wait for her ‘permission’ to start enjoying your life.

Mesmerising Himalayas

Has it ever happened to you? You meet an amazingly attractive girl and you find that she ‘seems’ to like your company too. It’s a beautiful connection and maybe you are even physically intimate with her. Things seem to be going really well for a few days, when suddenly her interest in you seems to fade away and you stop hearing from her. A few days pass and you begin to worry. But you try to stay strong and resolve to not ‘give in’. You decide to wait until she calls you. You have learnt from your previous mistake with the last girl of calling her a hundred times, to which she never responded back.

In the meantime as you wait for her reply your worries are taking it’s toll. You are not living your life. You are slowly cutting yourself away from your life – your hobbies, your interests and instead waiting for her in silent desperation. You feel confused. It seems as if all the colour in life has faded and only hearing from her will bring back that joy and colour back into your life. Maybe you can relate to this situation even as you read.

You see my dear friend, this kind of an approach, even though most romantic songs and movies teach us something along the lines of – Oh baby, you drive me crazy! Without you life has no meaning!” is one of the WORST mindsets with which to engage and communicate with women. The most you will achieve with this is a, “Let’s just be friends“. Maybe you have already experienced this and you find yourself nodding in agreement?

So what should you do when she isn’t replying back? Is there an empowering response to such a situation? Of course there is! And that is what I would like to explore with you and teach you. How do you take all this ‘stuck’ energy and thought patterns and re-fine it, re-cycle it and re-use it in such a way that you move closer and closer to the kind of attractive man you envision yourself becoming who easily and magnetically draws even hotter women to him in future? You see, what you do with your mind, your body and your energy is CRUCIAL in difficult life situations. It is THE difference between struggling in a state of despair/depression or cruising the wave of confusion and chaos with skill and precision and coming out of it with a quiet mind, a grounded body and believe it or not- even subtly more attractive.